It’s funny how one minute I was rolling my eyes as my mother tried to share words of wisdom, and then before I knew it, I sounded exactly like her. I think at some point in our younger years, we all tell ourselves that we’ll never be as uptight as Mom, and then somewhere along the line we figure out just how smart moms are. My mother had her fair share of phrases, but there are five “mom” expressions that have really stuck with me through time, and that I finally understand. And as time repeats itself, I will follow her footsteps by drilling them into my child’s head.
1. "Everything happens for a reason."
I was positive that this expression was a bunch of mumbo jumbo as a kid. When my mother would tell me that “everything happens for a reason”, I would respond with an ever so snarky “and the reason is…?”. It turns out Mom knew what she was talking about. Everytime a door closed for me, another door opened. When I first found out I was pregnant, let’s just say I was far from ecstatic. Flash forward to now, my daughter is hands down the best thing that has ever happened to me. I’ve had to sacrifice a lot since the day I found out about my little nugget, but I’m so much happier. I now have a direction, a purpose, and a love that is greater than I ever imagined.
2. "This won't matter three years from now."
I can remember hearing this one on repeat during my high school days. Whenever I had a catastrophic fight with friends, was going through a breakup, or on the verge of death because something embarrassing had happened, my mom would bust out the “Darling, it really won’t matter in three years”. As time passed, I managed to survive every end-of-the-world situation. And now as an adult with a daughter of my own, this phrase still has a place in my daily life. I often have to remind myself that there is no such thing as the perfect mom and mistakes are going to happen. Yes my child has fallen off of the bed, and yes we may have locked her in the car on the EXACT SAME DAY, but we got through it. If we learn from our mistakes and experiences, most situations really won’t matter a few years down the road.
3. "Money doesn't grow on trees."
If I had a dollar for every time I heard my mother say this growing up, I’m pretty sure I would be able to buy myself a money tree. “Mom can I have both shirts?” “No sweetheart just one, money doesn’t grow on trees.” “Mom I’m starving can we please stop at Mc Donalds!?” “Nope, you can wait till we get home, money doesn’t grow on trees.” I hated it! Surely my parents had enough money to buy the snack I was dying for, or the shirt I was convinced I needed in my life. But that wasn’t the point. My parents were teaching me how to manage money and make good decisions on priority spending. Now that I’m a stay-at-home mother, I understand this concept more than ever. There are so many things that I want but don’t need for both baby and myself. I’m still learning to be frugal and working towards contributing to my family’s finances. So, say it with me, “Money doesn’t grow on trees!”
4. "It's not that I don't trust you, I don't trust everyone else."
I used to think this phrase was a decoy to redirect my anger from Mom to “everyone else” (whoever that was supposed to be). I could not for the life of me understand what trusting other people had to do with me being out past a certain time, or not calling before going somewhere. Now seeing life from a mother’s point of view, I totally get it. If I could keep my child in an air tight bubble all of her life, I would. Unfortunately that isn’t possible, so I have to teach my daughter to make good decisions. Just as her actions may affect others, others’ actions could influence her as well. You better believe my daughter will be hearing “It’s not you I don’t trust...” plenty of times as she grows up. I’m not saying I’ll be locking her in the house until she’s 30 (I can’t do that can I?), I’m just saying that I’ll be following my “mom gut” which may involve letting my kid hate me sometimes to keep her safe.
5. "When you have kids of your own, you'll understand."
I finally understand! Every one of my mom’s expressions although extremely annoying, had a purpose. And yes, Mom, now that I have a child of my own, I definitely understand. This honestly could be the truest, most relatable thing I’ve ever heard. We all have this revelation at some point in our lives (you know, the one where we ARE our mothers). Right?
I think it’s safe to say that moms are straight up brilliant and should not be questioned! And I’m not just saying that because I’m a mom (well maybe a little). So please don’t forget to give your mom some cred, she deserves it! And just remember while your child is rolling their eyes at you, that one day they’ll understand your “mom” expressions too.
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